Single as a Pringle…and ready to Mingle

Valentine’s Day can be a sensitive subject especially to the girl that is single. You see everyone hypes up the day to be all sorts of romantic with candy, love and spending time with that significant other. Well, that’s all fine and dandy if you are in a relationship, but for the girls who are single as a pringle, it’s just a sore reminder that at last, they are STILL single.

You see, I am 23 years old and never once been on a date. Never once been in a relationship, and never once really been in love. Now sure I’ve had crushes on guys who I thought were hot or had a great personality but nothing ever came out of it. I probably cried more over the fact that he didn’t like me or notice me or wasn’t into me when nothing ever happened.

Does that make me crazy? Crying over a boy that was never mine, to begin with? 

Although I’ve never been in a relationship this year especially has been super hard for me emotionally. You see, the world and society tell us that if we aren’t dating, married, or starting a family by the age of 21 then something must be wrong with you. I had it all planned out just like probably every other girl out there. I would be married by 21 and have at least 2 kids by now but turns out that I’m far from my plan. Here I am 23 still single and no sign of finding that special someone anytime soon.

It’s really hard when you see your friends in relationships and happily in love and you don’t have anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I am super happy for them but at times I ask when is it my turn? Why haven’t I found the one? Is something wrong with me?

That my friends, I have been pondering and asking myself and God for the last year or so but especially the last month. I really started to believe the lies of the enemy.

  • You’re not pretty enough.
  • You’re not skinny enough.
  • You’re not good enough.
  • You’re too shy.
  • You’re too conservative.
  • No one wants you.
  • No one loves you.

These are dangerous lies and can really mess with your head. I remember thinking that if I was her then maybe just maybe then I could get someone to find me attractive. It reminds me of the song Girl Crush by Little Big Town.

Yeah, ’cause maybe then
You’d want me just as much
I got a girl crush
I got a girl crush
Hate to admit it but
I got a heart rush
It ain’t slowing down

You see, the comparison is a deadly trap that can leave you believing that you aren’t good enough. I would be scared to talk to guys because I didn’t want them to get the wrong impression of me. I didn’t want them to think I was flirting with them or after them.

Part of me is a little old fashioned. You know, the guy asks the girl and if I were to talk to them first then they would think I was chasing them. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to the realization that it’s not the case. It’s okay to talk to guys even if you don’t think you’ll ever date them. You can be friends with them. That’s how you get to know them. I have another blog post I’m gonna write later on guys and girls being friends but that’s for another time.

Back to the point, Grace. You are getting way off track. 

You see, being single as a pringle and ready to mingle is just a season of life. I’m not trying to diminish all the emotions, pain, confusion, and loneliness that comes with it. I’m right there with you. I’m living this season whether I want to or not.

Singleness can seem like a burden but it is actually a gift. 

If one more person tells me that they are jealous of my singleness I think I would scream. I may look like I have it all together and content in my singleness on the outside but on the inside, I’m just one hot mess express. However, there are a few things I want to leave you with today if you are single and struggling to navigate your way through this confusing, lonely season.

  1. Use this time to grow in your relationship with God.
  2. Don’t be afraid to mingle. 
  3. Embrace your single years. 
  4. Keep trusting and praying for your future husband.

I came across this quote a while ago and I would just like to leave you with it today.

UNTIL JESUS IS ENOUGH FOR YOU, NO PERSON OR THING WILL EVER BE. 

Be encouraged my friends, your singleness is a time for pressing in and pursuing your relationship with GOD and strengthen that. His plan for your life is so much better than our own we just have to keep trusting. It’s okay to be emotional, lonely, and confused during these single years just remember that God is right there with you holding your hand.

Until then I’m right there with you single as a pringle, and ready to mingle. 😀

TRUST…Even in the Hard!

Deep breath, it’s all going to be okay. I just gotta keep trusting. At least that is what I keep telling myself every day. This past weekend I attended my local IF GATHERING women conference. The whole theme was on trusting God. Can I just say that the messages of the speakers just hit hard with me and convicted me? Well, that was definitely the case.

Trusting God is something that I say all the time but am I REALLY trusting Him?  

It’s not always easy to trust God especially when circumstances are hard and you feel like you are drowning but it is always worth it to trust God. My own life has been filled with more hard, dark times than one 23 years old should have to deal with and still I haven’t lost my faith. Okay I lied, I’ve questioned it several times but haven’t completely lost it.

The words “am I trusting God?” really hit me hard and it made me stop and think. Wow, what a stab to the heart. I was convicted. You see I say that I trust God because I really want to but the question is am I willingly placing my trust in Him?

It’s not easy to trust God at times especially when circumstances seem to be shaking my faith to the core. Even when life hits me so hard I want to trust God but my own human side of me doesn’t understand why. You see when we are faced with hard, dark times and seasons of hard circumstances it’s so easy to ask God the question of where are you? I know from personal experience that I’ve asked this question more times than I’d like to admit.

One quote that stuck out to me was from Shantara McBride: 

Don’t ask God to agree with me but instead trust Him because He is asking you over and over again to trust Him. 

PROVERBS 3:5-6 tells us: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; in all your ways know him, and he will make your paths straight.

You see, you have to know what is true in God but also what is not true. Galatians talks about how we can take the truth and alter it slightly and it becomes false. Sometimes the truth makes us uncomfortable. When it does, remember that you have to reject that the approval of people is greater than the authority of God.

TRUST in God! Get to know Him and all the truth He has to offer. Spend time with Him. Investing time spent with God is not easy but always worth it. You just have to believe that trusting God and His pursuit of us is worth it.

The bottom line to this post or story is this. I’m not perfect. I struggle with trusting God just as much as the person reading this. The only difference is that even though I do struggle and openly admit it I do know one thing.

WE SERVE A BIG GOD!!!! Even though the hardest times may hit and you don’t understand know that your feelings are valid. It’s okay to doubt and question. Just don’t stay that way. You have a choice and I pray you will choose to trust God. I know I am.

Read the Bible in a Year or Not?

One of the goals that I set for myself last year in 2018 was to read the Bible through in a year. I was pretty consistent and kept up with it until about March. Life happened and while that is still no excuse I fell behind and just got discouraged so I gave up. Fast forward to 2019 and I set the same goal again. This year I was determined not to get behind and really keep up with it. I even bought one of the chronological journaling/coloring Bibles to help me stay focused. Well, I managed to keep up for the first month despite getting sick with the flu twice. While it was good, I kept feeling like God was telling me to stop.

Now first off I’d like to say that I’m not out to offend or bash you if you decide to read the Bible through in a year. I think it’s great. Many of my friends do and I support that 100%. However, take into consideration the why behind reading it.

Are you reading the Bible just so you can say you did it and cross it off your list or are you reading the Bible to learn and open your heart to what God has to say and learn? 

My word for the year is INTENTIONAL! I want to have all the right intentions for why I read my Bible. I started feeling like I had to read my Bible just so I can cross it off my list. It was like checking off the box for the day. I wasn’t fully digging deeper and thinking about what I was reading. It’s kinda like just going through the motions because it was the right thing to do. That’s when I heard God speak to me.


Grace, I want you to stop trying to read your Bible through in a year. I want you to start reading it so I can speak and teach you. Stop and pause, write down what you are learning and all the truths I have for you that are in my Word. 


WOW, thank you for bringing this to my attention God! I want to read my Bible because I want to know you more and continue to grow not because I want to check it off my list each day.

If you are wanting to grow and really read your Bible to learn I am going to share with you a few practical tips of what I am doing in hopes that it will encourage you. While each of us will take away different truths from the Bible and what we read here are what I think will help you.

  1. Start with Prayer- Prayer is important and by starting with it we are asking God to open our heart, soul, and mind to what He has for us and how we can learn and grow from what we are reading.
  2. Journal – Be sure you have a journal or some sort of notebook or paper handy. As a writer I love words and by writing it helps me process. Write down questions, verses, or anything that comes to mind while you are reading and studying.
  3. Worship Music – I love having worship music playing in the background. It just helps set the mood. Music speaks to my soul and it just calms me down. Right now I am loving the new album Follow You Anywhere by Passion Music. It’s my jam and pretty much is playing nonstop.
  4. Coffee – Okay you really don’t need coffee but it definitely helps.

While I want to be able to give you 1-2-3 steps and tell you that if you do that it will be easy but I can’t. We are all on our own unique journey of faith. I would love to hear your thoughts about this topic. Feel free to comment or send me a message.

Did I Thrive or Just Survive?

As I reflect back on 2018 one thing that comes to mind is this quote. ⠀

NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME OF MY CIRCUMSTANCES ARE… GOD IS GOOD. HE IS ALWAYS GOOD!!!

This is what I clung to over the past year. It wasn’t easy and at time painful, emotional, and exhausting but through it all God is faithful. He is good. God was with me every step of the way. ⠀

At the beginning of 2018, I chose a word for the year. My word was “THRIVE”. The idea came from a line in a song by Casting Crowns. I want to do more than just survive I want to thrive. That was my goal for this year.

Did I thrive? or Did I just survive?

I’d like to think that I did a little bit of both. There were definitely areas in my life that I thrived in more than others over the last year. As I looked back through my goals I feel like I accomplished some of them.

One thing that I thrived in was my prayer life and prayer in general. Prayer has become a huge part of my everyday life. Over the year praying for others has become a huge blessing to me. It makes me feel good that I am helping people by praying for them when sometimes that’s all you can do. Prayer has definitely been one of the only things that have gotten me through this year.  ⠀

Thriving in the area of serving and getting more involved in church. I am actively involved in childcare and preschool at my church. I volunteer once a month on Sundays back in preschool and I love every minute of it. Working with kids is a huge passion of mine. I love sharing the love of Jesus with them. This year I worked twice a month at church for MOPs. This is our church’s program for Mothers of Preschoolers. I got to work with the 4 and 5-year-olds and it was a blessing to me. There’s something about investing in the lives of kids that just makes my heart happy.

Another area of thriving was our young adult group Anthem. If you follow me on Instagram then you probably heard me speak of it. We meet on Thursday nights as well as Sunday mornings and let me tell you it’s one of the best things that has happened to me. It has changed my life for the better. The friendships that I have made over the last year I am truly thankful for. I love that I am accepted for who I am and that I can be real and authentic with them.

However, there are areas in life over the last year that I felt like I was just surviving. Health issues played a big part in life this year. I have had ups and downs and sometimes thought I was barely hanging on. It has been rough, emotionally, physically and mentally. I’ve cried more tears then I would like to admit there were times I wanted to just throw the towel in. It was only by God’s grace that I made it through. God was right there with me holding my hand.

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring or even what 2019 has in store but I do know that whatever comes my way God is with me. ⠀

I’m not sad about 2018 being almost through. In fact, I’m sorta excited because next year has to be better than this year. It just has to be. I keep telling myself that anyways. ⠀

There are lots I learned this year about God, myself, friends and life and I’m grateful to have experienced everything. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the mess all taught me lessons and made me stronger. ⠀

As you take time to reflect over the past year whether it was your best year yet or maybe your worst year please take heart and remember that God is good and you made it through with His help.

You Don’t Get It until You Live It

Everyone is going through something.

Just because they look fine and put together on the outside doesn’t mean they have it all together. Most of the time it just means they don’t let it show because people just don’t understand and pass judgment on them.

I’ve gotten a lot of opinions and advice over the years. People have told me time after time that I should trust God or press into Him. One of the most common phrases is well if you aren’t happy with your circumstance then do something about it to change them. Don’t keep focusing on what you don’t have. Focus on what you do have.

  • Everyone else doesn’t have it all together.
  • Everyone is going through something.
  • Stop comparing yourself to them.
  • There are people worse off than you.
  • You should be thankful you aren’t them.

You know what? That is like a stab in the heart right there. Of course, I know that others are worse off than me. Of course, I know that everyone is going through something. I should know this better than anyone.

What I don’t understand is this? Does that make what I am going through any less important? Does that mean my struggles, pain, hurt, and life shouldn’t matter?

Maybe it comes from dealing and living with a chronic health issue for over half my life. Maybe it comes from having to constantly watch others live the life I want. Maybe it’s just because I am a hot mess.

Whatever it is I want to open up and become a little more honest and vulnerable with you. If you have been following me here or over on Instagram you may have noticed that my heart has been changing lately. God has been showing and revealing to me that it’s okay to show the real me to you guys. It’s okay to not be strong all the time.

God has been speaking to me. He has been telling me that it’s totally normal and okay to show my struggles and pain to you all.

If I’m completely honest this summer has been super hard. I’ve been a complete trainwreck. Emotions have been all over the place. Health issues have been in full swing flare up mood. Life has been crazy. I’m just a hot mess express like my bestie Elyse calls me.

Why am I telling you this? Why am I opening up? Yes I know that I could get backlash and could even get criticized for this. But I feel like I need to speak the truth.

You don’t get it until you live it!

There, I said it. Now you can go ahead and think what you want but it’s the truth. Until you have to go through it and live it you don’t fully understand or get it. Sure you can think you know all about it and act like you have all the answers but the hard truth is that you don’t.

I want to share with you a couple things that you can do when you are faced with this kind of situation.

  1. Don’t accuse someone’s struggle isn’t important. We all go through things. One person’s struggle is just as important as someone elses. For example, one friend is dealing with someone having cancer, while another friend is dealing with constant migrane headaches. Both of these are valid struggles. Both of these affect that person. Don’t belittle or think one is worse than the other. They both are hard to deal with.
  2. Don’t go telling them that if they want to change their circumstances to just do it. You don’t know everything that is going on and it can do more damage then good sometimes. Changing your circumstances isn’t as easy as some may think. There might be complications that prevent that person from changing even if they want to.
  3. Don’t believe everything you see on social media. This one here my friend has casued me the most problems. People see that I post mostly good, uplifting, and encouraging posts. I may complain or share my struggle once in a while but everything isn’t alwasy what it appears to be. Social media sometimes gets a bad rap. People don’t post every single struggle or bad, messy parts of life. Most of the time it’s the fun, good times and there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t assume that everything is good or that their lives are perfect.

I leave you with this my friends. Show some empathy and compassion. Instead of judging or saying hurtful words try being more understanding. Sometimes just listening and saying, I know that must be hard, you’ll get through this, I’m sorry you are struggle is all they need to hear. Of course you can always pray for them too.

I pray that this encourages you and gives you a little glimpse into my life. Although this summer was rough and hard I can say that God never left my side. He is good! He is faithful! He is always there for me and He brought me through.

Blessings, Grace Mae ❤