Grow Through What You Go Through

🌱Grow through what you go through! 🌱

If you’ve been following me for any time now you probably know that I like to be 60768785_2257299101200538_3828098823301890048_otransparent and honest with you all. I like to speak what’s on my heart. ⠀⠀

Recently I’ve opened up with struggling a lot with life, health issues, my ministry, and writing. It’s scary to be vulnerable with you but I want you to see not just the good but the messy and hard. I don’t want you to think I’m perfect because God knows I’m far from it. I want you to know that I’m relatable and human just like you. ⠀
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I’ve had a few deep conversations with close friends and mentors lately. Each of them reminded me that it’s okay to feel like this. It’s okay to have fears and concerns. It’s okay to have doubts. ⠀

What’s not okay is to let them hold me captive. ⠀⠀
Something that they reminded me is that instead, I need to think about all the good things that God has done and give thanks. Now, this doesn’t mean these thoughts are bad. It just means I can’t let them constantly consume me. Even when it’s hard I need to still give praise to God. ⠀⠀⠀

Every day God is teaching me something.⠀⠀
Every day God is showing me a truth.⠀⠀
Every day God continues to be faithful.⠀⠀
Every day God shows His unconditional love for me.⠀⠀
Every day even through the pain of my circumstances God is good. ⠀

I’m learning and growing through these trials and hardships. I’m learning to be open and honest with others. I’m learning that I’m not alone and have amazing support and community of friends. ⠀
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I don’t know what you are facing today. I don’t need to know. God knows what you are going through. I’m here to remind you that I’m praying for you. I’m praying that you continue to grow. ⠀⠀
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Grow in your faith and that through your pain, hurt, and fears cling to the promise that God is with you every step of the way.

My Relationship with JESUS is More Important than the World!

Wow, I can’t believe it’s March already! You’ve probably been wondering where I’ve been. It’s been two weeks since I last posted but a lot has been going on in those two weeks for sure.

If you’ve learned anything about me from reading this blog, following me on social media, or know me personally you will know I love pouring into others and encouraging them. Well, the truth is if I am completely honest I sorta have been ignoring myself.

It is so much easier to take care of others than yourself. 

The thing is I am in a season where I feel like I am empty or dried up. I keep pouring out and out but in reality, I need to be filled up and poured into myself.

  • Yes, I have a mentor.
  • Yes, I go to church.
  • Yes, I have a prayer life.
  • Yes, I spend time in worship.
  • Yes, I have friends that encourage me.

But even with that, I have been feeling disconnected. I want to really dig into my Bible and grow closer to God.

The key is consistency. I haven’t been very good at being consistent and I’m not ashamed to admit it. 

With Easter coming up next month and Lent starting tomorrow I really thought and prayed long and hard about what I was going to give up and fast from during Lent. I’ve given up social media before, I’ve given up games, and I’ve given up food. But this year I wanted to give up something completely different.

So this year I chose to give up music. Yes, you read that right. Now before you freak out and start yelling at the computer at me and calling me crazy let me explain. I’m not giving up all music, just country, pop, and whatever other music there is except for worship and Christian.

You see while I love my country music I love my relationship with JESUS more. I want to really take the next 40 days to seek Him and let Him speak to me. I want a deeper connection. There’s no better way than to fill my head with worship and praise to Him. Worship and prayer are vital parts of my faith journey. 

The other thing that I will give up is Pinterest. I did this last year and it was super hard but I spend so much time on there scrolling and pinning that I figured I could use that time to read my Bible or pray instead of mindlessly looking every little thing up on Pinterest.


Next, I picked up a book at Lifeway today that is exactly 40 days long. It’s the new book by Jennie Allen called: Made for This – 40 Days to Living Your Purpose. I’m really excited to read it and dig in. She is one of my all-time favorite authors and speakers. She is the founder of the IF GATHERING women’s conference.

The book will help you answer the question: “WHY AM I HERE?” It basically helps you learn how to let God control your life and use you and your story of where you are at now for His purpose.

I will keep you updated as I read. I’ll probably post periodically on Instagram so be sure to follow me over there @onegirlonelifeonegod

So please join me in praying as I take the next 40 days to strengthen my relationship with God and fast from worldly music. I will be praying for you as well. Maybe you give soemthing up for Lent. If so I’d love to hear about it if you want to share. You can leave a comment or reach out on any of my social media accounts.

The bottom line to this post is this.

My relationship with JESUS is more important than the world.

Mentoring Isn’t for the Faint of Heart

Mentoring is an important part of life. It’s something that I feel like everyone needs. The idea of someone consistently pouring into your life that you trust to give you advice, call you out when you need it and just be there for you is amazing. However, let me just tell you that being a mentor isn’t for the faint of heart. In fact, it’s probably one of the hardest things to do that will stretch you and test your limits.

Now before you get the wrong idea, I’m all for mentoring and in fact, I am mentoring someone right now. While I really am passionate about it and pouring myself into it I keep finding myself constantly being attacked by the enemy. You see, anytime that you are doing something for the good of God’s kingdom, Satan will attack you and hit you where it hurts the most.

Spiritual warfare is real and dangerous! That’s a whole other post I could write about but for the sake of time and not to confuse you I will get back to my point. 

You see, there’s a difference between having a mentor and having a best friend. If there’s one thing that I have learned over the last month of mentoring it is this. Let your best friend be your best friend and don’t expect them to mentor you. Let me explain myself a little bit more. You might be thinking well I trust my best friend to give me sound advice and she knows me better than anyone. While that may be true, the problem is she does know you better and therefore can’t be neutral in giving you advice.

Now, this doesn’t mean you should ignore your friend’s advice it just means you need to be careful and also have a mentor in your life as well that can help you with making the right decision.

A mentor is supposed to be someone who:

  • is a role model
  • someone who believes in you
  • encourages you
  • available in times of crisis
  • provides accountability
  • promotes spiritual growth
  • helps you achieve goals
  • provides trusted counsel

These are very important parts of what a mentor is. It’s not an easy road or journey but it’s definitely worth it. Helping someone grow in their relationship with Jesus is great and honestly the best feeling in the world. Just don’t get distracted by the enemy’s lies and attacks. Anytime you are doing something to further the kingdom of God the enemy is right there waiting to attack.

Mentoring is a gift but it’s not for the faint of heart.

Single as a Pringle…and ready to Mingle

Valentine’s Day can be a sensitive subject especially to the girl that is single. You see everyone hypes up the day to be all sorts of romantic with candy, love and spending time with that significant other. Well, that’s all fine and dandy if you are in a relationship, but for the girls who are single as a pringle, it’s just a sore reminder that at last, they are STILL single.

You see, I am 23 years old and never once been on a date. Never once been in a relationship, and never once really been in love. Now sure I’ve had crushes on guys who I thought were hot or had a great personality but nothing ever came out of it. I probably cried more over the fact that he didn’t like me or notice me or wasn’t into me when nothing ever happened.

Does that make me crazy? Crying over a boy that was never mine, to begin with? 

Although I’ve never been in a relationship this year especially has been super hard for me emotionally. You see, the world and society tell us that if we aren’t dating, married, or starting a family by the age of 21 then something must be wrong with you. I had it all planned out just like probably every other girl out there. I would be married by 21 and have at least 2 kids by now but turns out that I’m far from my plan. Here I am 23 still single and no sign of finding that special someone anytime soon.

It’s really hard when you see your friends in relationships and happily in love and you don’t have anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I am super happy for them but at times I ask when is it my turn? Why haven’t I found the one? Is something wrong with me?

That my friends, I have been pondering and asking myself and God for the last year or so but especially the last month. I really started to believe the lies of the enemy.

  • You’re not pretty enough.
  • You’re not skinny enough.
  • You’re not good enough.
  • You’re too shy.
  • You’re too conservative.
  • No one wants you.
  • No one loves you.

These are dangerous lies and can really mess with your head. I remember thinking that if I was her then maybe just maybe then I could get someone to find me attractive. It reminds me of the song Girl Crush by Little Big Town.

Yeah, ’cause maybe then
You’d want me just as much
I got a girl crush
I got a girl crush
Hate to admit it but
I got a heart rush
It ain’t slowing down

You see, the comparison is a deadly trap that can leave you believing that you aren’t good enough. I would be scared to talk to guys because I didn’t want them to get the wrong impression of me. I didn’t want them to think I was flirting with them or after them.

Part of me is a little old fashioned. You know, the guy asks the girl and if I were to talk to them first then they would think I was chasing them. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to the realization that it’s not the case. It’s okay to talk to guys even if you don’t think you’ll ever date them. You can be friends with them. That’s how you get to know them. I have another blog post I’m gonna write later on guys and girls being friends but that’s for another time.

Back to the point, Grace. You are getting way off track. 

You see, being single as a pringle and ready to mingle is just a season of life. I’m not trying to diminish all the emotions, pain, confusion, and loneliness that comes with it. I’m right there with you. I’m living this season whether I want to or not.

Singleness can seem like a burden but it is actually a gift. 

If one more person tells me that they are jealous of my singleness I think I would scream. I may look like I have it all together and content in my singleness on the outside but on the inside, I’m just one hot mess express. However, there are a few things I want to leave you with today if you are single and struggling to navigate your way through this confusing, lonely season.

  1. Use this time to grow in your relationship with God.
  2. Don’t be afraid to mingle. 
  3. Embrace your single years. 
  4. Keep trusting and praying for your future husband.

I came across this quote a while ago and I would just like to leave you with it today.

UNTIL JESUS IS ENOUGH FOR YOU, NO PERSON OR THING WILL EVER BE. 

Be encouraged my friends, your singleness is a time for pressing in and pursuing your relationship with GOD and strengthen that. His plan for your life is so much better than our own we just have to keep trusting. It’s okay to be emotional, lonely, and confused during these single years just remember that God is right there with you holding your hand.

Until then I’m right there with you single as a pringle, and ready to mingle. 😀

TRUST…Even in the Hard!

Deep breath, it’s all going to be okay. I just gotta keep trusting. At least that is what I keep telling myself every day. This past weekend I attended my local IF GATHERING women conference. The whole theme was on trusting God. Can I just say that the messages of the speakers just hit hard with me and convicted me? Well, that was definitely the case.

Trusting God is something that I say all the time but am I REALLY trusting Him?  

It’s not always easy to trust God especially when circumstances are hard and you feel like you are drowning but it is always worth it to trust God. My own life has been filled with more hard, dark times than one 23 years old should have to deal with and still I haven’t lost my faith. Okay I lied, I’ve questioned it several times but haven’t completely lost it.

The words “am I trusting God?” really hit me hard and it made me stop and think. Wow, what a stab to the heart. I was convicted. You see I say that I trust God because I really want to but the question is am I willingly placing my trust in Him?

It’s not easy to trust God at times especially when circumstances seem to be shaking my faith to the core. Even when life hits me so hard I want to trust God but my own human side of me doesn’t understand why. You see when we are faced with hard, dark times and seasons of hard circumstances it’s so easy to ask God the question of where are you? I know from personal experience that I’ve asked this question more times than I’d like to admit.

One quote that stuck out to me was from Shantara McBride: 

Don’t ask God to agree with me but instead trust Him because He is asking you over and over again to trust Him. 

PROVERBS 3:5-6 tells us: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; in all your ways know him, and he will make your paths straight.

You see, you have to know what is true in God but also what is not true. Galatians talks about how we can take the truth and alter it slightly and it becomes false. Sometimes the truth makes us uncomfortable. When it does, remember that you have to reject that the approval of people is greater than the authority of God.

TRUST in God! Get to know Him and all the truth He has to offer. Spend time with Him. Investing time spent with God is not easy but always worth it. You just have to believe that trusting God and His pursuit of us is worth it.

The bottom line to this post or story is this. I’m not perfect. I struggle with trusting God just as much as the person reading this. The only difference is that even though I do struggle and openly admit it I do know one thing.

WE SERVE A BIG GOD!!!! Even though the hardest times may hit and you don’t understand know that your feelings are valid. It’s okay to doubt and question. Just don’t stay that way. You have a choice and I pray you will choose to trust God. I know I am.