Unseen: Servanthood – Mary or Martha?


“Do you want to stand out? Then step down. Be a servant. If you puff yourself up, you’ll get the wind knocked out of you. But if you’re content to simply be yourself, your life will count for plenty.” Matthew 23:11-12 (MSG) 

These verses really hit me hard this week. Being content as being yourself is one of the hardest struggles I think most of us face.

The way we are wired is to be seen. When we are given jobs or tasks and do them well we want everyone to know that we did them. It’s just normal for us to want to be recognized for our work and jobs that we have done well.


You see no one wants to be underappreciated or overlooked. We all want to get the glamorous or noticed jobs. I know for me personally, I’ve struggled with getting stuck with the messy or not so great tasks. I’ve probably complained or grumbled more than I’d like to admit.

I love how in Matthew it talks about not letting your ego and pride get in the way. If you let it consume you and you start acting like you are better than anybody else it will come back to kick you in the butt. It will just set you up for disappointment.

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I’m always reminded of the story of Mary and Martha. You see in that story there were two sisters who both knew what being a servant and serving meant but had two very different personalities.

Let’s read Luke 10:38-42 (MSG):

As they continued their travel, Jesus entered a village. A woman by the name of Martha welcomed him and made him feel quite at home. She had a sister, Mary, who sat before the Master, hanging on every word he said. But Martha was pulled away by all she had to do in the kitchen. Later, she stepped in, interrupting them. “Master, don’t you care that my sister has abandoned the kitchen to me? Tell her to lend me a hand.”

The Master said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.” The Master said, “Martha, dear Martha, you’re fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it’s the main course, and won’t be taken from her.”

The lesson we can learn from this passage of Scripture is that only one thing mattered to Jesus and Mary chose it. You see Mary wanted to listen to every word Jesus spoke. She wanted to know Him more. She was more worried about learning from Jesus than to impress Him. However, Martha, on the other hand, was so worried about every little detail being perfect. She was too worried about making sure Jesus’ visit was the best that she was so caught up in the details she forgot to make time to actually sit and listen to His words.

You see we could learn a lesson from both of them. Both Mary and Martha could’ve compromised somewhat. Mary could’ve been a little more helpful while Martha could’ve slowed down and listened to Jesus more.

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We need to remember this: We hunger for significance to be seen and understood and loved, to be and live marvelous-because we are made not only to know God but also known to Him.


“Therefore we do not give up. Even though our outer person is being destroyed, our inner person is being renewed day by day.”

2 Corinthians 4:16 (CSB)

You see when we choose to be a servant and have a heart that is willing to be celebrated even in the unseen moments and learn to embrace it then God will bless you and your life will count for far more than you ever could imagine.

I want to encourage you as you read this. Let’s go back to the beginning Scripture passage that I opened this post with. We need to be content with the life we are living now instead of craving something we don’t have. I love this quote by Sara and that it was a great way to end this post.

“Our human eyes can betray the truth of the story we are living.” Sara Hagerty


Discussion Questions: Answer these in the comments, over on social media, share them with a friend, or just keep them to yourself.

  1. What does being a servant mean to you?
  2. Who are you most like? Mary or Martha?
  3. What are some reasons why it may hinder you in the way of your pursuit of that “better thing”?

  4. In what areas of servanthood have you found yourself craving the look of another or acknowledgment of what you are doing?

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Blessings, Grace Mae ❤

Unseen: Hidden in Him

I’m so excited! Today we are launching the first week of our book club. For the next 11 weeks, we will be reading and will be discussing the book Unseen by Sara Hagerty.

Throughout this book, my prayer is that we will all be going on this journey together. In the pages of Unseen, we will be reading and learning the gift of being hidden. Many of us know the struggle well. The word we live in today is all about me, me, me and loves the attention. In reality and truth though, God wants us to pour into Him.

So will you join me? Let’s get started!

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I get so excited to see their lives change and how they now can influence others to do the same.

My passion has always been to encourage and equip others to share what Jesus is doing in their lives. But like everyone there has been times when that passion or urgency started dying inside of me. Sure I was attending church, events, sharing the love of Jesus with others but it felt more out of routine than actual passion.

Does that make sense? I hope so. Maybe I should just back up a little. I think we all have felt like this at one time or another. We always have this urge that we need to reach as many people as possible with the Gospel. You see while this is all great we cannot lose sight of the root of our intentions.

Just like Sara in the book I was the same type of girl who wanted to get involved in every activity and event that was ministry minded and was sharing the Gospel with others. I knew that God wanted me to share my faith and experiences with others that sometimes it seemed like I was looking for approval from God.

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In other words, I was trying to perform for God. I felt like if there wasn’t a life-changing, soul saving task then He didn’t love me. I thought He would think that I was lazy or not good enough. I kept pushing myself and saying the same things over and over.

Since a young age, I knew the truth but not it was starting to be more routine than passion. I was longing to know God more. I needed to carve out more time with Him. There’s more I need to know then just sharing and being productive for God. My heart needed to know and see Him. Therefore, being hidden wasn’t a bad thing.

When you are faced with a season of waiting and wondering why I want you to let me encourage you right now. These are the times that you need to press into Him. Take out your Bible and read the Words on the page and let them sink into your heart.

“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”  Colossians 3:2

This verse reminds me of two things. One that it doesn’t matter what the world keeps telling us. The only thing that matters is what God tells us. There have been times more then I’d like to admit when the waiting and the circumstances felt unbearable. You see I suffer from chronic Lyme and Bartonella. It makes life super hard. There are times when I need to remind myself that through this pain and suffering God has a purpose. He uses the unwelcomed and unbending hardships to show us that He sees and He knows.

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Once I started spending quiet moments with Him my focus shifted. I started seeing and knowing who God was as I read the pages of my Bible and spent time in prayer. It made me long to know Jesus more.

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or his stature because I have rejected him. Humans do not see what the Lord sees, for humans see what is visible, but the Lord sees the heart.”  1 Samuel 16:7

The words of the Lord in 1 Samuel 16:7 really stuck out to me this week. We don’t see what God sees. We judge outward appearances and what we can see but Jesus sees and wants your heart.

When we hide in Him rather than perform for Him, it takes our focus by shifting our attention from the branches to the roots, from what’s visible in my work to what’s unseen as my life in God.

God wants us! God invites us! God does not banish us!

So what are you waiting for? I encourage you this week to spend some time behind the scenes in prayer and reading the Word.

Discussion Questions: Answer these in the comments, over on social media, share them with a friend, or just keep them to yourself.

  1. Who is God to me?
  2. Where have you met God that was in an unusual place?
  3. Is pouring yourself out for Him alone being enough for you?

Be sure to engage in the conversation over on Instagram as well as join our Facebook group. I look forward to hearing and engaging with you all.

Blessings, Grace Mae ❤

Comparision and Why Her?

I’ve never been one who liked to read books but recently that has started to change. At the beginning of the year, I decided that this year I would like to read at least 10 books this year.

Well, I just finished the first one and get this. I read the whole thing in less than a weeks time. Several of my friends recommended this. It’s a brand new book that just came out and it really was eye-opening for me. I thought that I would take some time to do a review on the blog this week.


When I first saw the title of the book my thoughts immediately were yes finally a book that will answer my questions. In a way they do but it also opened a whole new series of questions that got me thinking about comparison and the age-old question why her not me.

Nicki Koziarz’s way with words is truly remarkable. The whole book is built around 6 different truths that you need to hear.

Comparison is a lie that the devil uses to distract us from what God wants us to do. 

As I read through each chapter of the book it kept convicting my heart more and more. I struggle with comparison and honestly until now I wasn’t to keen on sharing this struggle with the world. This book changed my perspective on a lot of things.

TRUTH 1: You need to be honest! 

TRUTH 2: See it like it really is!

Honesty teaches us to stop fearing what we don’t have so we can see what we do.

~Nicki Koziarz~

These two truths go together in my mind. Being honest and seeing things like they really go hand in hand. As I think back through my own life it’s so hard seeing things like they really are. Sometimes you just want them to be the way you want them and the thought of being honest hurts. Well, my friend let me tell you this. I’ve been there. One thing that I’ve learned is that when we are honest, it can lead us to understand than to just react.

TRUTH 3: You don’t always have to be okay!

TRUTH 4: Sometimes you didn’t do anything wrong!

Ouch! These two truths and chapters really hit me hard. I’m the kind of woman who very rarely shows that I’m not okay. People have told me that I’m good at faking okay instead off showing them that I’m not.

While reading these chapters I felt in my heart God telling me this:

Grace, you don’t have to always be okay and have it all together. It’s okay to not be okay. I know it is hard to watch “her” but I know that you didn’t do anything wrong. Trust me! I know whats best for you. 

You see, exposing your own weakness toward jealousy and allowing God to overcome its damaging effects on you is a significant step in our freedom. One quote that stuck out to me was this:

We have to trust God so much that if He doesn’t give it to us, we don’t want it!

~Nicki Kozariz~

Can I say ouch again?

Seriously this was one of those moments where I wanted to throw the book across the room and scream. You know the feeling, it’s not something you want to hear or read. The older I get the more I’m having to trust God and His timing.

Surrender is hard!

There have been times when something I wanted so badly never came to be. God didn’t give it to me and I was upset. Looking back now I wish that I would’ve had this attitude of I don’t want it because God didn’t give it to me for a reason.

TRUTH 5: Her gain is not your loss!

TRUTH 6: Let the success of others encourage, not discourage you!

Here are another one of those moments I had of wanting to throw the book down and not finish it but it wasn’t because I didn’t want to it was because God was convicting my soul.

You see reading this book opened my eyes to past comparison issues that I have been keeping inside. You know the ones where I thought that I was fine and over it but in reality, this book brought up the issue and made Mme realize it was still an issue.

One in particular issue of the why her question came up through a message from a friend. It kinda discouraged me. You see she was asked or given an opportunity that I have been praying so hard for the last year. It really got me thinking.

Watching others succeed in the things you want or desire is hard. In other words, watching them live your dreams feel like a stab in the back. 

I quickly started praying and texted a couple friends. They were someone who understood my struggle. They prayed for me and reminded me to focus on the good and not let this discourage me too long.

So as I finished the book here’s a little encouragement I want to leave you with today. Comparison is a real struggle but instead of focusing on the bad focus on the good. Remember the six truths that were discussed in the book. Remember that you are not alone in this struggle and know that I am praying for you.

Please feel free to comment or shoot me a message. I want you to know that I am here for you. I want to pray for you and tell you that God loves you.

If you haven’t read this book, I highly encourage you to pick up your copy today. It is well worth your time to read. Here’s a link to purchase your copy

Blessings, Grace Mae ❤