Single as a Pringle…and ready to Mingle

Valentine’s Day can be a sensitive subject especially to the girl that is single. You see everyone hypes up the day to be all sorts of romantic with candy, love and spending time with that significant other. Well, that’s all fine and dandy if you are in a relationship, but for the girls who are single as a pringle, it’s just a sore reminder that at last, they are STILL single.

You see, I am 23 years old and never once been on a date. Never once been in a relationship, and never once really been in love. Now sure I’ve had crushes on guys who I thought were hot or had a great personality but nothing ever came out of it. I probably cried more over the fact that he didn’t like me or notice me or wasn’t into me when nothing ever happened.

Does that make me crazy? Crying over a boy that was never mine, to begin with? 

Although I’ve never been in a relationship this year especially has been super hard for me emotionally. You see, the world and society tell us that if we aren’t dating, married, or starting a family by the age of 21 then something must be wrong with you. I had it all planned out just like probably every other girl out there. I would be married by 21 and have at least 2 kids by now but turns out that I’m far from my plan. Here I am 23 still single and no sign of finding that special someone anytime soon.

It’s really hard when you see your friends in relationships and happily in love and you don’t have anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I am super happy for them but at times I ask when is it my turn? Why haven’t I found the one? Is something wrong with me?

That my friends, I have been pondering and asking myself and God for the last year or so but especially the last month. I really started to believe the lies of the enemy.

  • You’re not pretty enough.
  • You’re not skinny enough.
  • You’re not good enough.
  • You’re too shy.
  • You’re too conservative.
  • No one wants you.
  • No one loves you.

These are dangerous lies and can really mess with your head. I remember thinking that if I was her then maybe just maybe then I could get someone to find me attractive. It reminds me of the song Girl Crush by Little Big Town.

Yeah, ’cause maybe then
You’d want me just as much
I got a girl crush
I got a girl crush
Hate to admit it but
I got a heart rush
It ain’t slowing down

You see, the comparison is a deadly trap that can leave you believing that you aren’t good enough. I would be scared to talk to guys because I didn’t want them to get the wrong impression of me. I didn’t want them to think I was flirting with them or after them.

Part of me is a little old fashioned. You know, the guy asks the girl and if I were to talk to them first then they would think I was chasing them. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to the realization that it’s not the case. It’s okay to talk to guys even if you don’t think you’ll ever date them. You can be friends with them. That’s how you get to know them. I have another blog post I’m gonna write later on guys and girls being friends but that’s for another time.

Back to the point, Grace. You are getting way off track. 

You see, being single as a pringle and ready to mingle is just a season of life. I’m not trying to diminish all the emotions, pain, confusion, and loneliness that comes with it. I’m right there with you. I’m living this season whether I want to or not.

Singleness can seem like a burden but it is actually a gift. 

If one more person tells me that they are jealous of my singleness I think I would scream. I may look like I have it all together and content in my singleness on the outside but on the inside, I’m just one hot mess express. However, there are a few things I want to leave you with today if you are single and struggling to navigate your way through this confusing, lonely season.

  1. Use this time to grow in your relationship with God.
  2. Don’t be afraid to mingle. 
  3. Embrace your single years. 
  4. Keep trusting and praying for your future husband.

I came across this quote a while ago and I would just like to leave you with it today.

UNTIL JESUS IS ENOUGH FOR YOU, NO PERSON OR THING WILL EVER BE. 

Be encouraged my friends, your singleness is a time for pressing in and pursuing your relationship with GOD and strengthen that. His plan for your life is so much better than our own we just have to keep trusting. It’s okay to be emotional, lonely, and confused during these single years just remember that God is right there with you holding your hand.

Until then I’m right there with you single as a pringle, and ready to mingle. 😀

TRUST…Even in the Hard!

Deep breath, it’s all going to be okay. I just gotta keep trusting. At least that is what I keep telling myself every day. This past weekend I attended my local IF GATHERING women conference. The whole theme was on trusting God. Can I just say that the messages of the speakers just hit hard with me and convicted me? Well, that was definitely the case.

Trusting God is something that I say all the time but am I REALLY trusting Him?  

It’s not always easy to trust God especially when circumstances are hard and you feel like you are drowning but it is always worth it to trust God. My own life has been filled with more hard, dark times than one 23 years old should have to deal with and still I haven’t lost my faith. Okay I lied, I’ve questioned it several times but haven’t completely lost it.

The words “am I trusting God?” really hit me hard and it made me stop and think. Wow, what a stab to the heart. I was convicted. You see I say that I trust God because I really want to but the question is am I willingly placing my trust in Him?

It’s not easy to trust God at times especially when circumstances seem to be shaking my faith to the core. Even when life hits me so hard I want to trust God but my own human side of me doesn’t understand why. You see when we are faced with hard, dark times and seasons of hard circumstances it’s so easy to ask God the question of where are you? I know from personal experience that I’ve asked this question more times than I’d like to admit.

One quote that stuck out to me was from Shantara McBride: 

Don’t ask God to agree with me but instead trust Him because He is asking you over and over again to trust Him. 

PROVERBS 3:5-6 tells us: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; in all your ways know him, and he will make your paths straight.

You see, you have to know what is true in God but also what is not true. Galatians talks about how we can take the truth and alter it slightly and it becomes false. Sometimes the truth makes us uncomfortable. When it does, remember that you have to reject that the approval of people is greater than the authority of God.

TRUST in God! Get to know Him and all the truth He has to offer. Spend time with Him. Investing time spent with God is not easy but always worth it. You just have to believe that trusting God and His pursuit of us is worth it.

The bottom line to this post or story is this. I’m not perfect. I struggle with trusting God just as much as the person reading this. The only difference is that even though I do struggle and openly admit it I do know one thing.

WE SERVE A BIG GOD!!!! Even though the hardest times may hit and you don’t understand know that your feelings are valid. It’s okay to doubt and question. Just don’t stay that way. You have a choice and I pray you will choose to trust God. I know I am.

Read the Bible in a Year or Not?

One of the goals that I set for myself last year in 2018 was to read the Bible through in a year. I was pretty consistent and kept up with it until about March. Life happened and while that is still no excuse I fell behind and just got discouraged so I gave up. Fast forward to 2019 and I set the same goal again. This year I was determined not to get behind and really keep up with it. I even bought one of the chronological journaling/coloring Bibles to help me stay focused. Well, I managed to keep up for the first month despite getting sick with the flu twice. While it was good, I kept feeling like God was telling me to stop.

Now first off I’d like to say that I’m not out to offend or bash you if you decide to read the Bible through in a year. I think it’s great. Many of my friends do and I support that 100%. However, take into consideration the why behind reading it.

Are you reading the Bible just so you can say you did it and cross it off your list or are you reading the Bible to learn and open your heart to what God has to say and learn? 

My word for the year is INTENTIONAL! I want to have all the right intentions for why I read my Bible. I started feeling like I had to read my Bible just so I can cross it off my list. It was like checking off the box for the day. I wasn’t fully digging deeper and thinking about what I was reading. It’s kinda like just going through the motions because it was the right thing to do. That’s when I heard God speak to me.


Grace, I want you to stop trying to read your Bible through in a year. I want you to start reading it so I can speak and teach you. Stop and pause, write down what you are learning and all the truths I have for you that are in my Word. 


WOW, thank you for bringing this to my attention God! I want to read my Bible because I want to know you more and continue to grow not because I want to check it off my list each day.

If you are wanting to grow and really read your Bible to learn I am going to share with you a few practical tips of what I am doing in hopes that it will encourage you. While each of us will take away different truths from the Bible and what we read here are what I think will help you.

  1. Start with Prayer- Prayer is important and by starting with it we are asking God to open our heart, soul, and mind to what He has for us and how we can learn and grow from what we are reading.
  2. Journal – Be sure you have a journal or some sort of notebook or paper handy. As a writer I love words and by writing it helps me process. Write down questions, verses, or anything that comes to mind while you are reading and studying.
  3. Worship Music – I love having worship music playing in the background. It just helps set the mood. Music speaks to my soul and it just calms me down. Right now I am loving the new album Follow You Anywhere by Passion Music. It’s my jam and pretty much is playing nonstop.
  4. Coffee – Okay you really don’t need coffee but it definitely helps.

While I want to be able to give you 1-2-3 steps and tell you that if you do that it will be easy but I can’t. We are all on our own unique journey of faith. I would love to hear your thoughts about this topic. Feel free to comment or send me a message.

Anthem Worship Night

Hello February, when did you get here? Wasn’t it just January?

The past month has been rough due to getting sick with the flu twice as well as dealing with my chronic health issues. I’m hoping February will be better and I will be healthier. Right now I am still recovering but on the mend.


There’s so much that has been on my mind lately that I have been praying for. Our young adult group Anthem just finished up a 21 day fast and we celebrated with a Worship Night to end the month of January.

Can I just say the worship was soo powerful and The Holy Spirit was definitely moving last night? As I was worshiping and praying for God to meet me there in the moment because I was feeling empty and like I had no more to give. I needed to be renewed and refreshed.

One of my passions is prayer as you know if you’ve been following me for any amount of time. I’m on the prayer team at Anthem and during worship was a prayer partner. One of the best feelings in the world is being able to come alongside someone else and pray for them and with them.

It was then that something very special happened. As I was worshipping and praying a young woman came over to me. She said that she knew that I’m here to pray for others but she felt like God was telling her to come and pray for me. As she was praying over me and speaking into my life I knew it was from God. She was praying things that there was no way she would’ve known about. I mean I have seen her at Anthem before and we are friends on Facebook but never really have had a conversation. God used her last night and it was amazing. Now I have another friend.


I have other things I want to share with you about what God has been speaking to me but I’m gonna save that for another post. This post was meant to express how much Anthem Worship Night really meant to me.

No Matter What We Need GOD

✨May I never forget on my best day, that I still need GOD as desperately as I did on my worst!⠀

When I came across this quote I knew that I wanted it to be a reminder. You see, we tend to search and pursue God when we are having a bad day and then when things get better we tend to push it aside. My friends that’s not good. ⠀

We need to be pursuing and searching after GOD every day in any circumstance. ⠀

In the good!⠀
In the bad! ⠀
In the messy!⠀
In times of joy!⠀
In times of sorrow!⠀
In times of pain!⠀
In times of rejoicing! ⠀

The truth is that in all circumstances no matter what we need GOD!! ⠀

He wants all of us. I’m so passionate about being vulnerable, honest and real with you. We need to be authentic. ⠀

I’m not perfect! ⠀
I’m just like you. ⠀
I’m a sinner saved by grace. ⠀
I make mistakes. ⠀
I have my share of bad days. ⠀

But one thing I can say is that through it all I know that I need GOD. I need Him every day of my life not just on the good days and not just on the bad but every day. ⠀

So I want to encourage you, that no matter what season or circumstance you are facing right now, run to Jesus. Pursue Him because He is the only thing that will get you through. ⠀